RECIPE FOR BLISS
In our recent service, we delved into the concept of “Recipe for Bliss,” emphasizing the importance of a commitment to permanence within the framework of divine order as established by God. This discussion served as a recap of our previous teachings, where we highlighted the distinct differences between the Kingdom’s order for family and the secular understanding of familial structures. The Kingdom order is defined as Christ being the head of every man, followed by man as the head of woman, and both parents guiding their children. This hierarchy is not merely a matter of authority but rather a divine blueprint that, when adhered to, leads to harmony and fulfillment within the family unit. I encourage you to explore this message further by accessing it on YouTube, downloading it through The Elevation app, or purchasing the CD for a more in-depth understanding.
Moreover, we discussed the implications of deviating from this divine order, noting that any misalignment often results in pain, which serves as a crucial indicator that something is amiss. To illustrate this point, I used the analogy of human posture; standing correctly allows for stability and comfort, while altering one’s stance can lead to discomfort and strain. For instance, attempting to balance on one leg or, more precariously, on one’s head, exemplifies how deviation from the intended design can lead to physical distress. Pain, therefore, is not inherently negative; rather, it can be a valuable signal prompting us to reassess our alignment with God’s order. I have authored a book titled “Don’t Waste Your Pain,” which elaborates on this theme and offers insights on how to transform pain into a learning experience. It is a concise read, available for a modest price, and I highly recommend it for anyone seeking to understand the purpose behind their struggles.
Pain serves a significant purpose in our lives, acting as a crucial instructor that alerts us to areas requiring attention. It is a signal that prompts us to investigate the underlying issues, urging us to recognize what may be out of alignment within ourselves. By addressing the source of this discomfort and understanding its message, we can gradually restore balance and witness transformative changes in our lives. For those who are devoted to Christ and strive to follow His teachings, this journey can lead to profound joy and the ability to be a source of blessing to their partners.
In the context of familial relationships, the importance of order is emphasized in Job chapter 2, verses 7-8, where the Bible illustrates the kingdom of God as a well-structured entity committed to maintaining order. The imagery of mighty men marching in formation underscores the necessity of discipline and organization, which are essential for growth and the effective utilization of resources. This principle extends to our homes, where a commitment to both relational and administrative structures, centered around Christ, can lead to divine intervention and blessings. Each family member should cultivate an individual relationship with Christ, independent of one another, ensuring that the spiritual foundation of the household is robust. It is a misconception for men to rely solely on their wives’ spiritual strength, as each individual is called to engage actively in their faith journey.
Having a praying wife is certainly beneficial, but the presence of a praying husband brings an even greater level of excitement and spiritual engagement within the household. A man who is attuned to prayer is uniquely positioned to receive divine guidance, as he is often seen as the spiritual leader in the family. When he prays, he opens a channel for God to communicate vital insights and revelations that are essential for the family’s spiritual growth. The strength of a household’s spiritual foundation is significantly enhanced when the man actively engages in prayer, as God is eager to impart wisdom to him. This dynamic is akin to a workplace scenario where a manager is the primary recipient of important communications; when the manager is unavailable, the flow of information can become disrupted.
In many homes, however, the spiritual leader may be disconnected from God, akin to a manager whose phone is out of service. This disconnection can stem from various distractions and responsibilities that pull men away from their spiritual duties, leaving them unable to fulfill their roles effectively. The consequences of this disconnection are profound, as it limits the family’s ability to receive divine direction and support. It is crucial for every member of the family—men, women, and children alike—to cultivate their personal relationship with God. This personal commitment is essential for building a blessed and harmonious home, and I challenge anyone who is dedicated to this endeavor to actively pursue a deeper connection with the divine.
I encourage you to embrace a commitment that leads you to establish a personal relationship with God as an individual, as this is a pathway to true happiness. When a person cultivates a personal connection with God, they can experience profound peace. As I mentioned in a previous service, my travels around the world have not caused my wife any anxiety regarding unexpected surprises or foolish actions on my part. This assurance stems from the understanding that, from the moment we became partners, I recognized that any wrongdoing I might commit would first and foremost be an offense against God, rather than merely against her. The principle here is that God holds the ultimate authority in our lives; thus, transgressing against my spouse is fundamentally a transgression against God. When one possesses a genuine fear of God, it transcends concerns about their partner, leading to a moral compass that guides their actions.
Recently, I spoke with a young man who described his wife as a “monitoring spirit,” expressing his frustration with her constant scrutiny of his activities, including attempts to access his email and phone. He lamented that her behavior made him feel trapped. To the women who wish to avoid such labels, it is essential to foster a sense of security in your relationship, knowing that your partner, grounded in faith, will act honorably. The biblical admonition against being unequally yoked with unbelievers is not rooted in a disdain for those who do not share our faith; rather, it is a divine guideline aimed at ensuring peace of mind. God desires for you to marry someone you can trust, someone who shares a reverence for Him, thereby creating a foundation of mutual respect and understanding that enhances the relationship.
It is essential to recognize the profound implications of marrying someone who embodies a strong spiritual foundation.
If one enters into a union with a woman of such beauty and grace without being firmly rooted in their faith, they may find themselves consumed by jealousy and insecurity, akin to a monitoring spirit. The truth is that when a man is aware that he has chosen a partner who possesses a genuine fear of God and maintains a personal relationship with the divine, he can approach the relationship with confidence. This awareness fosters a sense of peace, as he understands that her devotion to God creates a protective barrier against the anxieties that often accompany relationships lacking spiritual alignment. The biblical admonition against being unequally yoked with an unbeliever serves as a reminder that such disparities can lead to discord and unrest, ultimately affecting one’s peace of mind.
Furthermore, the structure of a family is vital for its harmonious functioning, where each member holds equal importance yet has distinct roles that contribute to the overall purpose and responsibility of the household. In this framework, the man is positioned as the head, followed by the woman and then the children. It is concerning to observe families where children dictate the dynamics, leading to a scenario where their desires overshadow the spiritual and moral guidance that should be present. In such cases, parents may prioritize their children’s whims over their own spiritual responsibilities, neglecting the importance of instilling faith and trust in God. It is crucial for parents to recognize that their role is not merely to cater to every need of their children but to guide them in a manner that reflects their own faith and reliance on God’s omnipresence.
The individual expressed that the mere utterance of a word would suffice for the healing of his servant, who remained at home. Jesus, observing the man’s faith, engaged with him while contemplating the implications of his statement. The man identified himself as a Centurion, a soldier commanding a hundred troops, and articulated his understanding of authority. He explained that when he commands his soldiers, they obey without question, illustrating the power of authority in action. He recognized that Jesus, too, operated under divine authority, which enabled Him to command even the forces of darkness. The Centurion requested that Jesus simply speak the word, confident that his servant would be healed as a result.
In response, Jesus remarked that He had not encountered such profound faith within Israel. The Centurion’s acknowledgment of Jesus’ divine authority underscored the importance of being under authority to validate one’s own. Many individuals today pursue various ambitions, yet their efforts often yield little success due to a lack of respect for authority. When one claims to hold authority, it is crucial to consider on whose behalf they speak. True authority is derived from being under the authority of God. Furthermore, it is imperative for single men to cultivate a sense of accountability prior to marriage; a lack of accountability can lead to dangerous outcomes. A man who is not answerable to anyone possesses unchecked power, particularly if he is experiencing success in wealth or status, making him a potential threat to himself and others.
In the factory, the brakes were removed from the vehicle, yet the option to acquire them remains. A conversation ensued regarding the availability of brake configurations in Nigeria, with uncertainty expressed about whether they had been discontinued. When discussing the power and speed of BMW vehicles, particularly the 7-Series, a hypothetical scenario was presented where someone might offer such a car. The response to such an offer would likely be one of astonishment and gratitude, acknowledging the fulfillment of a prophecy. However, if it were revealed that the car lacked a specific type of brakes, the sentiment would shift dramatically. The realization that the vehicle could potentially be a death trap would lead one to conclude that it is no longer a car but rather a coffin, as the absence of brakes would render it uncontrollable and perilous.
This analogy extends to individuals who possess great potential yet lack the necessary guidance and accountability in their lives. A person who is not submitted to any authority—be it in their church, workplace, or personal relationships—represents a significant risk. Such a person embodies power without restraint, which can lead to destructive outcomes for themselves and those around them. It is crucial for individuals to cultivate a personal relationship with God and ensure that their decisions are in harmony with His Word. The journey of faith involves more than mere salvation; it requires a commitment to spiritual growth and maturity. As we approach the coming year, there are plans to introduce courses aimed at fostering this growth, and participation in these programs is highly encouraged to deepen one’s understanding of God.
Understanding God is a journey that extends beyond mere acknowledgment; it requires a deep, personal connection that is cultivated through intentional engagement. In our connect group system, we are currently facilitating the Alpha course, which emphasizes the importance of knowing God intimately. It is insufficient to simply be saved; one must strive to deepen their relationship with God, moving from a basic understanding to a profound love that is rooted in knowledge rather than mere emotion. Many individuals express their love for God in an emotional manner, akin to the fleeting nature of love at first sight, which lacks the depth of understanding. This superficial connection can lead to disillusionment, as true knowledge of God fosters a more authentic and enduring love.
As one grows in their understanding of God, this knowledge naturally translates into a desire to serve Him. Genuine love is demonstrated through acts of service, as one cannot truly love without giving of oneself. The act of giving is the primary evidence of love; if there is a lack of contribution in terms of service and resources within the kingdom of God, it indicates a deficiency in love. When we love someone, we prioritize their needs and seek to be involved in their mission. The ultimate expression of this service is sacrifice, as exemplified by Abraham’s willingness to offer his son. This progression in understanding and love is crucial, especially when considering the dynamics of a blissful marriage, as one cannot share what they do not possess.
It is through divine influence that our hearts are filled with genuine, unconditional love, often referred to as agape love, for one another.
This profound love must first be cultivated within ourselves before we can extend it to others. The assurance of this love provides a sense of security, reinforcing the belief that if God is on our side, no adversary can prevail against us. My commitment to loving God and adhering to His guidance is paramount, and it is essential that our choices reflect the teachings found in His Word. As men, we are called to embrace our roles as leaders within our households, taking on the responsibility of guiding our families with purpose and vision. Leadership involves not only setting a direction but also nurturing and supporting our wives and children, as it is our duty to be the heads of our families.
The concept of leadership within the family is further emphasized in the biblical context, where men are reminded of their obligation to provide for their households. According to 1 Timothy 5:8, failing to do so equates to a denial of faith, highlighting the seriousness of this responsibility. It is crucial for men to express love for their wives in a manner that mirrors Christ’s love for the church, fostering a nurturing environment. In turn, women are encouraged to honor their husbands and allow them to fulfill their leadership roles without resistance. The dynamic within the home should reflect a partnership where the man leads, and the woman supports, recognizing that both roles are vital for a harmonious family life.
It is crucial to recognize the importance of honoring your husband and allowing him to take the lead in your relationship. This entails being a steadfast source of support, not just during favorable circumstances but consistently, regardless of the situation. True support is unwavering; it should not fluctuate based on personal convenience or the current state of affairs. Drawing a parallel, one might consider the inconsistency often observed among sports fans, such as those of Arsenal, who may waver in their loyalty during challenging times. In contrast, a committed partner remains supportive at all times, embodying the essence of faithfulness and dedication.
Furthermore, it is essential to understand that submission does not diminish a woman’s intelligence or her ability to make sound decisions. Many women mistakenly perceive submission as a form of subjugation, often recalling their professional achievements or qualifications as a means to justify their worth. However, genuine faith is demonstrated not merely through compliance when circumstances align with personal logic but through a willingness to trust and obey even when the rationale is unclear. This act of faith is vital, as it reflects a deeper understanding of divine guidance. It is important to communicate with respect and encouragement, rather than criticism, to foster an environment where both partners can thrive without undermining each other’s confidence. Ultimately, walking by faith is about embracing trust in the relationship, even when the path is not entirely clear.
In a previous discussion, I employed an analogy illustrating a scenario where a man is driving with his wife. As he veers left, heading towards a ditch, the wife urges him to turn right for safety. Faced with this critical moment, she must choose between physically struggling to take control of the steering wheel, exiting the vehicle while it is still in motion, or remaining passive and placing her trust in divine intervention, uttering a prayer for guidance. This situation raises a profound question about expectations from God; He does not desire for us to engage in futile struggles or to abandon our circumstances out of fear. Instead, there are times when God calls us to remain steadfast, allowing our faith in Him to deepen, even when His directives may seem illogical or challenging to comprehend. Such submission is a testament to our trust in God, and it is through this act of faith that we may witness miraculous outcomes and divine support.
In the Gospel of Mark, chapter 10, we find a pertinent exchange between Jesus and the Pharisees regarding the topic of divorce. When they inquire whether a man can divorce his wife for any reason, Jesus redirects their attention to the teachings of Moses, highlighting the original intent of marriage. The Pharisees reference Moses’ allowance for a certificate of divorce, to which Jesus responds by emphasizing that this concession was made due to the hardness of their hearts. He reminds them that from the very beginning of creation, God designed marriage as a sacred union between male and female, stating that a man shall leave his parents to unite with his wife, thus forming one flesh. This profound declaration underscores the sanctity of marriage, reinforcing the idea that it is not merely a contractual agreement but a divine covenant meant to reflect unity and commitment.
In verse 9, it is stated that what God has united, no individual should attempt to sever. As we prepare to engage in prayer and exchange our vows, I urge everyone to adhere to divine principles, which serve as a foundation for both peace and joy. More importantly, this commitment signifies a dedication to permanence in relationships. It is essential that we move away from the notion of divorce, which has become all too commonplace. In contemporary society, many young individuals find it all too simple to declare their desire to end a relationship, often expressing sentiments of wanting to escape rather than confronting the challenges at hand. As a counselor, I frequently encounter individuals who are quick to voice their discontent, prompting me to reflect on the deeper commitment to permanence that should accompany the institution of marriage.
Jesus articulated that the allowance for divorce was a concession made due to the hardness of human hearts, emphasizing that such practices were not part of the original design. From the very beginning, God created male and female, blessing their union and instructing that a man should leave his parents and unite with his wife. The directive remains clear: what God has joined together should not be divided by human intervention. The questions posed to Jesus regarding the permissibility of divorce for trivial reasons echo in today’s society, where individuals may consider separation over minor grievances. This lack of commitment to permanence undermines the sanctity of marriage, as seen in scenarios where a partner may threaten divorce over a simple disagreement. It is crucial to foster a culture that values enduring commitment and addresses issues with understanding and resolve, rather than resorting to the easy way out.
It is essential to convey this message with the guidance of the divine spirit: true growth in endurance is unattainable without the ability to face conflict and confrontation. In any relationship, the presence of two individuals inevitably leads to disagreements. It is crucial to assess one’s threshold for pain, as the divine who calls for a commitment to lasting relationships has already established a specific limit for what we can endure. It is important to recognize that not all pain is detrimental; rather, it can serve as a signal for necessary adjustments. The speed at which one addresses and rectifies these issues directly correlates with the duration of the discomfort experienced. In the context of marriage, the path to resolution involves open dialogue. When discussions do not progress as intended, it may be beneficial to involve a neutral third party who can facilitate understanding, as miscommunication often arises when one person speaks in a manner that the other cannot comprehend.
Moreover, it is not uncommon for individuals to resist the idea of involving an interpreter, despite the fact that they may be communicating in fundamentally different ways. The reluctance to accept a third party can hinder mutual understanding, making it imperative to seek assistance when necessary. It is vital to embrace conflict as a natural component of marital growth rather than viewing it as a destructive force. By doing so, couples can foster resilience and deepen their commitment to one another. Therefore, it is important to cultivate a mindset that welcomes conflict as an opportunity for growth, rather than a reason to retreat. Ultimately, God calls for a steadfast commitment to permanence, urging individuals to remain steadfast in the face of challenges.