Connect And Come Alive

The Elevation Church, Lagos, Nigeria

CONNECT AND COME ALIVE

It is truly remarkable and uplifting to witness the harmonious relationships that can exist between brothers and sisters. The beauty of such connections is not merely a matter of personal sentiment; it is deeply rooted in the divine intention and providence of God. The scriptures affirm this notion, illustrating that the power of unity is profound, as evidenced by the biblical assertion that one can chase a thousand, while two can chase ten thousand. This exponential impact underscores the principle that where there is unity, the presence of God is palpable. In Genesis 2:18, the declaration that it is not good for man to be alone extends beyond the context of marriage; it encapsulates the fundamental truth that human beings are inherently designed for connection. A life devoid of meaningful relationships is destined for dysfunction, while a life enriched by connection aligns with the divine purpose.

To cultivate a life that reflects the beauty and wonder of God’s design, it is essential to foster connections with those around us.

I encourage you to turn to your neighbor and express the desire for mutual understanding and camaraderie. If you are speaking to your spouse, you may find that they are already on board with this sentiment. However, I urge you to reach out to someone who is not yet a close friend and convey the importance of building a relationship. This gathering is intentionally organized within our local communities, allowing us to engage with those who share our geographical space. By doing so, we can forge vital connections, enriching our lives and the lives of others as we navigate our journeys together.

I will provide a brief overview before delving into the connections, which I have titled “Connect and Come Alive.” I invite you to turn to Romans chapter 12, where I will read verses 3 to 5. The passage states, “For I say through the grace given to me to everyone who is among you not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think soberly, as God has dealt to each one a measure of faith. For as we have many members in one body, but all the members do not have the same function, so we, being many, are one body in Christ and individually members of one another.” Let us take a moment to emphasize the phrase “one another,” which is often highlighted in the New Testament and signifies the importance of connection and mutual support. The Scriptures consistently encourage us to engage in acts of kindness and fellowship with one another, reinforcing the idea that we are interconnected.

In this context, the metaphor of the body is particularly poignant, illustrating our unity as members of Christ’s body. In John 15, Jesus employs the imagery of a vine, stating, “I am the vine, and you are the branches.” This metaphor underscores the necessity of a strong connection to the vine in order to bear fruit; without this connection, one cannot thrive. Additionally, in Ephesians chapter 2, verses 21 and 22, the metaphor of the temple is introduced, where we are described as stones within that temple, with Christ as the chief cornerstone. This imagery conveys that God desires to dwell among us, and His spirit flows through this collective structure, emphasizing our individual roles as integral parts of a greater whole.

The concept of community is central to our understanding of human existence, particularly when viewed through a spiritual lens.

It is essential to recognize that we are not designed for solitude; rather, we are intended to forge connections with one another.

In this context, it is important to emphasize that God does not operate an orphanage but rather cultivates a family dynamic. The Elevation Church embodies this principle, serving not merely as a place of worship but as a familial unit to which we all belong. Today, we gather to honor the essence of belonging, connection, and togetherness, celebrating the profound significance of family in our lives.

The distinction between being part of the human race and belonging to a family is crucial. While my entry into the world occurred in a hospital, marking my birth into humanity, it was the transition to my home that introduced me to the concept of family. This highlights the reality that one can exist within the broader human community yet lack the intimate bonds of family. Many individuals mistakenly assume that familial connections are inherent; however, the truth is more complex. Family structures vary widely, encompassing polygamous, monogamous, and even unconventional arrangements that defy traditional definitions. As a counselor with over two decades of experience, I have encountered numerous individuals whose familial backgrounds reveal a stark absence of genuine connection, underscoring the importance of nurturing and cultivating meaningful relationships within our lives.

In the pursuit of truthfulness, one may encounter the challenge of contextualizing experiences that are inherently difficult to articulate. This complexity becomes even more pronounced when we consider the spiritual realm, particularly within the framework of the Kingdom of God. It is essential to recognize that while some individuals are born into this divine kingdom, they may lack the familial support that is crucial for their development. This absence of a nurturing environment can lead to the emergence of what might be termed “spiritual area boys,” individuals who, despite their affiliation with the kingdom, navigate their spiritual journey without the guidance of a family structure. These individuals, often referred to as Pentecostal rogues, may exhibit behaviors such as speaking in tongues, yet their spiritual upbringing is marred by a lack of understanding regarding authority and the hierarchical nature of spiritual communities. Their discomfort with accountability and structure can be traced back to their formative experiences, which have left them ill-equipped to engage with the spiritual authority that is vital for growth.

A poignant illustration of this phenomenon can be found in the story of a young boy who was brought into a teen church setting. My wife, who oversees both the junior and teen church, often shares her observations about the children in her care, and one particular boy captured her attention. This boy, who had likely been found abandoned at a beach, was taken in by a compassionate family who recognized his need for support. Despite their best efforts to integrate him into the community, the boy struggled to comprehend the concept of family, having spent his early years in an orphanage in Edo State or the Niger Delta region. His journey underscores the profound impact of familial absence on an individual’s ability to navigate both physical and spiritual realms, highlighting the critical need for nurturing environments that foster understanding and connection within the Kingdom of God.

The individual responsible for the orphanage was contacted, and they provided a comprehensive dossier regarding the boy in question. It became evident that, despite his physical presence, he exhibited a reluctance to engage or form connections, indicating a profound sense of detachment. The trajectory of his behavior was predictable; while there was an expectation that he would eventually bond with the household, the reality was that such an endeavor would likely lead to disappointment and emotional turmoil. The caretakers, however, expressed their faith in handling the situation, believing that divine intervention would guide their efforts. Although they managed to avoid significant distress, the boy’s inability to adhere to basic instructions became apparent. For instance, when informed that television viewing was restricted after 9 PM, he would challenge the rule, expressing his unwillingness to comply. This culminated in a moment when he packed his belongings and declared his intention to leave, highlighting his lack of understanding regarding boundaries and rules—an unfortunate consequence of inadequate familial upbringing.

This scenario serves as a poignant metaphor for spiritual dynamics, emphasizing the importance of belonging to a family, particularly within the context of faith. God desires for us to be integrated into His spiritual family, which transcends mere biological connections. Many individuals find themselves linked to relatives by blood yet remain emotionally estranged, resulting in dysfunction. In contrast, the Kingdom of God fosters connections that are both spiritual and heartfelt, uniting believers through the shared sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This bond is not merely a superficial label used within church settings; it is a profound reality that calls for deeper emotional and spiritual engagement. To truly experience the anointing and grace of God within a congregation, it is essential to cultivate relationships that go beyond mere acknowledgment, fostering genuine connections that resonate on a heart-to-heart level.

The essence of true connection among individuals is beautifully encapsulated in the sentiment expressed in Psalm 133:1, which highlights the joy and wonder of harmonious relationships among siblings. This notion extends beyond mere biological ties, emphasizing that members of God’s family are united not solely by blood but by a profound spiritual bond. While one may not have the liberty to select their biological family, the choice of a spiritual family is available, particularly when one allows divine guidance to shape their connections. The biological family, rooted in blood relations, is an involuntary association; however, as individuals mature, they may find it necessary to redefine their relationships. In contrast, God invites believers to embrace a spiritual family, ensuring that they are not left adrift in the world without a sense of belonging.

The Elevation Church embodies this concept, functioning not merely as a place of worship but as a familial unit within the broader family of God. It is essential for members to adopt a mindset that recognizes their role and responsibilities within this spiritual family. A primary obligation is to maintain a connection with God and foster relationships with fellow members. This principle is succinctly articulated in Matthew 22, where Jesus emphasizes the importance of loving God wholeheartedly and extending that love to one’s neighbors. This straightforward directive serves as a foundation for interpersonal connections, encouraging heartfelt engagement among members. Furthermore, Psalm 92:13 reinforces the idea that those who are firmly rooted in the house of God will thrive in His presence, highlighting the significance of being planted within this spiritual community for personal growth and flourishing.

God assumes responsibility for individuals who are part of His family, ensuring that every aspect of grace available within the church community is directed towards you, your life, and your family. When you are deeply integrated into a church family, you experience flourishing in the presence of God. It is essential to allow God to guide you in establishing your roots within a church community, as the significance of belonging to such a family transcends mere physical proximity to your home or workplace. Instead, it is a profound heart connection that is cultivated through divine guidance. By remaining anchored within this church family, you can forge meaningful relationships that facilitate the flow of God’s blessings into your life. Together, as a community, you engage in shared experiences, and through this collective journey, God bestows His blessings upon you all.

As I conclude my discussion on the theme of connection and its vital role in bringing us to life, it is important to recognize that without connections, we experience a sense of emptiness. We are inherently designed for connection rather than isolation, as highlighted in Genesis 2:8, which emphasizes the innate human desire for belonging. This longing is universal; it exists within every individual created by God, manifesting as a desire to be part of various groups, clubs, and societies. While this yearning can lead to positive affiliations, it can also be misdirected, resulting in involvement with entities that do not honor God and may hinder personal growth. Therefore, my encouragement is to nurture this longing for belonging within your spiritual family, as doing so can lead to fulfillment and spiritual advancement, rather than engaging in pursuits that may ultimately prove detrimental.

I find myself frequenting a place that gradually erodes my inner peace, yet I still yearn for a sense of belonging. My association with an individual who exerts a detrimental influence on my future only intensifies this desire. Many individuals suppress their longing for connection due to past traumas, leading me to contemplate the necessity of extinguishing my own yearning for acceptance. Having endured emotional pain and hardship, I am reluctant to expose myself to further suffering. Consequently, I engage in a form of self-denial, repeatedly convincing myself that I do not need to seek out these connections. This internal struggle often results in a sense of dysfunction, manifesting as unexplained anger and frustration. The very individuals who could help alleviate this turmoil are often absent from my life, as I have chosen to distance myself from meaningful relationships.

The absence of genuine connections leaves us feeling hollow, underscoring the importance of fostering relationships that can enhance our understanding of ourselves.

Establishing these connections is crucial, as they provide a sense of balance that is difficult to achieve in isolation. It is a fundamental truth that one cannot attain equilibrium in life solely through solitary efforts; rather, it is through engaging with others that we can cultivate a well-rounded perspective. Reflecting on the decisions made throughout one’s life reveals that many of these choices were influenced by the insights and contributions of others. Without the diverse viewpoints that relationships offer, it is unlikely that one would arrive at their current state of being. Therefore, to develop a balanced worldview, it is essential to embrace and nurture our connections with others.

In the New Testament, there are numerous passages that emphasize the importance of mutual support among individuals, particularly in Galatians 6:1-2, which states that if someone is caught in a wrongdoing, those who are spiritually mature should gently restore them, while also being mindful of their own vulnerabilities. This scripture highlights the necessity of bearing one another’s burdens, which ultimately fulfills the law of Christ. By sharing our perspectives and worldviews, we create a balanced environment that fosters understanding and compassion, allowing us to support each other more effectively in times of need.

Furthermore, the strength derived from these connections is invaluable, especially during challenging times. The knowledge that one is not alone can significantly alleviate the burden of pain and hardship. For instance, during the birth of our first daughter, my wife experienced labor pains, and I realized the critical need for encouragement during such moments. Many women require support to navigate the challenges of childbirth, as the experience can be overwhelming when faced alone. This analogy extends to life in general, where individuals striving to achieve greatness often feel isolated, leading to unfulfilled potential. The importance of community and support cannot be overstated, as it is essential for overcoming obstacles and achieving personal growth.

During the labor process, I offered my left hand for her to grasp, and as she pressed the ring against it, we both erupted in shouts of encouragement. Although she may not have been fully aware of my presence due to the intensity of the moment, we were united in our effort, pushing together in a shared experience. This led me to reflect on the next time I might support a woman in labor; perhaps it would be wiser to provide her with a stick to hold onto, allowing her to grip it firmly while I held the other end, thus avoiding the risk of injury to my hand. The sheer courage required to endure such pain is immense, yet the presence of supportive voices urging her on can make a significant difference. The familiar refrain of “You can do it!” resonates deeply, and before long, the ordeal concludes with the arrival of a new life, a testament to the miracle of birth that glorifies God.

Moreover, the strength we derive from our connections with others is vital across various aspects of life. The realization that we are not alone can empower us to achieve remarkable things. Within our spiritual communities, God desires for us to experience acceptance, which is crucial for personal growth. In environments where individuals are held to unrealistic standards of perfection, we risk undermining one another instead of fostering an atmosphere of support and encouragement. A true spiritual family uplifts its members, celebrating their potential for improvement rather than condemning them in their moments of struggle. It is through the acceptance of others that we can begin to embrace our true selves, recognizing that our worth is not diminished by our imperfections but rather enhanced by the love and support we receive from those around us.

Empathy plays a crucial role in fostering connections within one’s spiritual community, as it is through these relationships that individuals can experience grace and understanding. God desires for us to engage deeply with our spiritual family, as this connection transcends mere intellectual acknowledgment of one another’s struggles. It is in the emotional sharing of experiences, such as discussing challenges in marriage or business, where true empathy is manifested. For instance, when one person expresses their pain through tears, and another responds with genuine compassion rather than mere rationalization, it exemplifies the essence of empathy. This emotional bond is vital within the church, as it creates an environment where individuals feel validated and understood, allowing them to confront their realities without fear of being dismissed or deemed irrational.

Furthermore, the need for understanding is paramount in these connections. When someone truly comprehends our experiences and emotions, it can be transformative, igniting a sense of vitality and belonging. This understanding fosters an atmosphere where individuals feel seen and heard, reinforcing the notion that their struggles are legitimate and shared. In a supportive spiritual community, members should be able to affirm one another’s realities, providing reassurance that they are not alone in their challenges. This mutual recognition and support are what make a spiritual family thrive, creating a space where individuals can connect authentically and come alive in their faith journey.

When an individual truly comprehends another, they gain insight into their identity and the mechanisms that govern their experiences. This understanding extends beyond mere emotional resonance; it encompasses the objective realities, facts, and truths that shape our lives. For someone to genuinely grasp the intricacies of your existence and collaborate effectively with you, it is essential to cultivate authentic connections within your spiritual community. Such connections are vital for fostering a deeper understanding and support among members. It is my earnest hope that, as a congregation, we will be guided by divine assistance to strengthen our bonds and enhance our ability to connect meaningfully with one another.