FILL THE WATER POTS
This morning, I have chosen to share a message titled “Fill The Water Pots.” I encourage you to turn to your neighbor and remind them to “Fill the water pots.” Additionally, I would like to inform you that starting tomorrow, our morning prayers will recommence from 6:00 AM to 7:00 AM via Zoom. During this time, we will focus our prayers on Nigeria, our families, and the church community. For those who have submitted prayer requests, I invite you to actively participate in this spiritual endeavor. The importance of prayer, especially for our nation, cannot be overstated, and I urge you to embrace this opportunity to join us online.
To participate in the morning prayers, please visit the church’s website or download our app, where you will find the necessary links to join the Zoom session. If you do not already have the Zoom application, I recommend downloading it to ensure you can be part of this collective prayer experience. We have the capacity to accommodate thousands of participants online, so the effectiveness of our prayers will not be hindered by the size of the gathering. I encourage you to join us every morning throughout the month of October, with the exception of Sundays, as we come together in faith and unity.
The theme “Fill the water pots” draws inspiration from John chapter 2, verses 1-10, which recounts the well-known miracle at the wedding in Cana of Galilee. This passage has been the subject of numerous sermons, yet today, I feel compelled to share a message that reflects what God has placed on my heart. As we reaffirm our commitments this morning, let us also contemplate the responsibilities that God is entrusting to us during this pivotal time. May we approach this month with a spirit of dedication and purpose, as we seek to fulfill the divine plans laid out for us. Praise God.
In the second chapter of the Gospel of John, the narrative unfolds on the third day, marking a significant event—a wedding celebration in Cana, located in Galilee. The presence of Jesus’ mother at this gathering is noteworthy, as it suggests a role of intermediary or facilitator in the unfolding events. Both Jesus and His disciples were also invited to partake in this joyous occasion. However, a crisis soon emerged when the hosts found themselves without wine, a situation that could have marred the festivities. In response to this predicament, Jesus’ mother approached Him, expressing concern by stating, “They have no wine.” This moment highlights her awareness of the social implications of the shortage and her belief in her son’s ability to address the issue.
The conversation that ensues between Jesus and His mother is both intriguing and revealing. When she brings the matter to His attention, Jesus responds with a question that seems to distance Himself from the situation, asking, “Woman, what does your concern have to do with me? My hour has not yet come.” This exchange underscores the complexity of their relationship and the divine timing of Jesus’ ministry. His use of the term “woman” may appear formal, yet it signifies a respectful distance, indicating that His mission transcends familial obligations. Despite this, His mother demonstrates unwavering faith in His capabilities, instructing the servants to heed His words, “Whatever He says to you, do it.” This directive not only reflects her confidence in Jesus but also sets the stage for the miraculous events that are about to unfold.
The underlying themes of accountability and the importance of seeking counsel resonate throughout this passage. In contemporary discussions about relationships, the reluctance of individuals to seek guidance can be concerning. A recent inquiry from a young woman regarding her fiancĂ©’s dismissal of counseling highlights a critical issue: the necessity of accountability in any partnership. The belief that one can navigate life’s challenges solely through personal conviction, without the input of others, can lead to detrimental outcomes. The biblical principle that “iron sharpens iron” emphasizes the value of mutual support and guidance. Furthermore, the notion that experience serves as the best teacher is often misinterpreted; it is essential to learn from the experiences of others to avoid unnecessary hardships. Thus, the narrative of the wedding at Cana serves as a reminder of the significance of community and counsel in both spiritual and relational contexts.
Six stone water pots were placed there, designed in accordance with the Jewish customs of purification, each capable of holding between 20 to 30 gallons. Jesus instructed those present to fill these water pots with water, emphasizing the importance of this task. The servants complied, filling the pots to their maximum capacity. Following this, Jesus directed them to draw some of the water and present it to the master of the feast. Upon tasting the liquid, which had miraculously transformed into wine, the master was unaware of its origin, although the servants who had drawn the water were fully aware of the process that had taken place.
The master of the feast then summoned the bridegroom and remarked on the quality of the wine, noting a common practice at celebrations where the best wine is served first, followed by inferior selections once the guests have indulged. However, he pointed out that the bridegroom had saved the finest wine for last, a commendable choice that defied the usual custom. This moment not only highlighted the extraordinary nature of the miracle but also served as a metaphor for the richness of experiences that can be found in life, suggesting that the best is often reserved for those who wait.
Reflecting on the nature of wine and spirits, one can draw parallels to the complexities of human relationships. Just as there are various grades of wine, ranging from 7% to 17% alcohol content, relationships can also vary in depth and intensity. The intoxicating effects of alcohol can mirror the initial allure of romantic connections, particularly in situations that are not arranged. In contrast to arranged marriages, where individuals may not experience that initial spark, the dynamics of unarranged relationships often begin with a sense of excitement and intoxication. However, the true essence of any relationship, much like the quality of wine, is revealed over time, requiring effort and understanding to cultivate a lasting bond.
A genuine relationship is characterized by an initial attraction, where one might observe a partner and think, “What a remarkable individual.” This admiration often leads to a profound appreciation for the beauty and goodness present in one another, evoking a sense of awe that can be likened to a spiritual experience. Such moments are the foundation upon which marriages and relationships are built, as they foster a deep connection and intimacy. However, it is crucial to periodically assess the state of these relationships, acknowledging that the initial excitement may wane over time.
It is essential to recognize when the vibrancy of a relationship begins to diminish, akin to realizing that the wine has run out at a celebration. The biblical account of the wedding at Cana in Galilee serves as a poignant reminder of this reality. Couples often find themselves in a state of denial, unaware that the joy and passion that once characterized their union have faded until conflicts arise, leading to arguments and resentment. This deterioration can escalate to a point where the relationship feels on the brink of collapse, prompting the question of how they arrived at such a distressing juncture.
Many individuals mistakenly believe that the vitality of their marriage will naturally replenish itself without any conscious effort. However, it is imperative to understand that the essence of a thriving relationship does not regenerate on its own; it requires intentional nurturing and, at times, extraordinary intervention. The notion that marriage should be an exhilarating and intoxicating experience is fundamental, as it reflects the commitment made in one’s vows. To sustain this dynamic, couples must actively engage in maintaining the emotional and spiritual richness of their bond, recognizing that it is not merely a matter of coexistence but a continuous journey of love and effort.
This morning, I had the pleasure of encountering a couple who were celebrating their 40th wedding anniversary right after the first service. I met them just outside the venue as I was preparing to sign books. I have known this couple for approximately four years, and it was heartwarming to see them surrounded by their children and grandchildren, all of whom are active members of our church community. Their milestone is a testament to enduring love and commitment, and it is a joy to witness such long-lasting relationships within our congregation.
Within our church, we are fortunate to have a diverse range of marital experiences. For instance, during a couples retreat held a couple of weeks ago in Epe, the longest-married couple in attendance had been together for 29 years. We took the time to honor them during the retreat, recognizing the various stages of marriage represented among our members. From couples who have recently tied the knot to those who have been together for decades, each relationship contributes to the rich tapestry of our community. It is essential to acknowledge that newlyweds, having been married for just three months, may still be in the early stages of their journey, and they may require support and encouragement as they navigate this new chapter of their lives.
The analogy of checking the levels of wine in a marriage is quite pertinent. In the past, drivers would routinely check their vehicles’ oil and fuel levels to ensure everything was functioning properly. Today, many of us rely on advanced technology that alerts us to any issues, but this was not always the case. My first experience with driving involved a Volvo that seemed to have a mind of its own, consuming fuel at an alarming rate. Just as one must regularly monitor a vehicle’s condition to avoid unexpected breakdowns, it is equally important to assess the health of a marriage. If we neglect to pay attention to the dynamics of our relationships, we risk allowing negativity to seep in, transforming what should be a source of joy into a source of distress. In moments of crisis, as illustrated in the biblical account where the wine ran out, it is crucial to seek guidance and support, just as Mary did when she provided the first instruction to address the situation.
In moments when one feels as though they are approaching a state of depletion, it becomes imperative to seek guidance.
Mary emphasized the importance of obedience, urging that whatever instructions are given, they should be followed without hesitation. She reiterated the necessity of taking action, highlighting that one must be prepared to address a seemingly hopeless situation that may have arisen within the context of a marriage. This call to action is not merely a suggestion but a vital step toward transformation.
Jesus illustrated this principle by instructing his followers to take responsibility for filling the empty water pots, a task that preceded the miraculous transformation of water into wine. This act of filling the pots symbolizes the need for individuals to actively engage in their circumstances rather than waiting passively for change to occur. It underscores the belief that miracles often require human initiative and effort, suggesting that one must first demonstrate a willingness to contribute before experiencing a significant shift in their situation.
The message conveyed through this narrative is one of empowerment and accountability. It serves as a reminder that in the face of adversity, particularly in personal relationships, individuals must be proactive in seeking solutions. By embracing the responsibility to act, one opens the door to potential miracles and positive outcomes, reinforcing the idea that change is possible when one is willing to take the necessary steps toward resolution and healing.
I once encountered a narrative concerning a young man who found himself ensnared in a situation devoid of affection. This individual reflected on the common experience of others who, when faced with similar circumstances, often express feelings of disconnection, stating that they no longer love their partner. Frequently, when questioned about the origins of these sentiments, individuals struggle to articulate their feelings, instead focusing on the bitterness and negative behaviors that have emerged. These adverse emotions and actions can be likened to the punctures made in a wine bottle, allowing the precious liquid to escape more rapidly. Such emotional wounds are often inflicted by external forces, leading to a gradual depletion of love and trust.
The young man reached a critical juncture in his life, ultimately deciding to pursue a divorce. He sought the counsel of a highly competent divorce attorney, clearly stating his intention to end his marriage. The lawyer, however, first inquired about the circumstances surrounding his domestic life before discussing fees. As the young man shared details of his situation, he firmly expressed his resolve, indicating that he was beyond the point of reconsideration. The attorney acknowledged his determination and proceeded to discuss the logistics of the divorce process, emphasizing the importance of a strategic approach to ensure a swift resolution.
The attorney explained that in order to expedite the divorce proceedings, it was essential to construct a robust case that would leave no room for defense from the spouse. He outlined the necessity of gathering evidence and formulating arguments that would support the young man’s position, thereby facilitating a smooth and efficient filing. The young man, eager to escape the turmoil of his current situation, understood the implications of this strategy and was prepared to cooperate fully. The conversation underscored the complexities of marital dissolution, highlighting the emotional and legal intricacies that accompany such a significant life decision.
The individual expressed his agreement, acknowledging the expertise of his advisor, and inquired about the steps necessary to construct a compelling case. The advisor responded without hesitation, outlining a strategic approach. He emphasized that the ongoing disputes should be reframed, suggesting that the individual adopt a more amicable demeanor towards his spouse. This shift in behavior was to be meticulously documented, as the advisor anticipated that the forthcoming legal proceedings would require a contrasting narrative. He advised the individual to start each day with a gesture of affection, such as a hug and a loving remark, before departing for work. Furthermore, he instructed the individual to forward any negative communications from his spouse to his email for record-keeping.
The advisor highlighted the importance of a significant upcoming event, specifically the spouse’s birthday, which was just three weeks away. He proposed that this occasion could serve as a pivotal moment in their strategy, suggesting that a thoughtful and impressive gift be purchased. The advisor requested photographic evidence of the gift, reinforcing the need for a comprehensive record of interactions, particularly any instances of mistreatment. He assured the individual that this methodical approach would facilitate a swift and effective case development. The individual was also encouraged to take full responsibility for household duties, including managing bills and ensuring timely school pickups for their children, with the added instruction to capture and send photographs of these moments to the advisor.
As the month progressed, the individual diligently followed the advisor’s recommendations, consistently updating him on his actions. Upon their meeting at the end of the month, the advisor reviewed the documentation and confirmed his intention to file the case on the first Monday of the upcoming month. However, when asked about the individual’s feelings regarding the situation, a surprising revelation emerged. The individual expressed a desire to halt the filing process, citing a notable change in his wife’s behavior. This unexpected shift prompted the advisor to question the reasons behind the change of heart, leading to a discussion about the evolving dynamics of their relationship and the potential for reconciliation.
The man turned to his attorney and expressed his desire not to proceed with the filing. The lawyer, taken aback, inquired about the sudden change of heart. The man explained that his relationship with his wife had undergone a transformation. He recounted how, after presenting her with a thoughtful birthday gift, he noticed a significant shift in her demeanor. She had expressed genuine happiness and gratitude for the gesture, which seemed to rekindle a warmth in their interactions. He elaborated on how their morning routine had evolved; where she once remained rigid during his affectionate gestures, she now reciprocated with warmth and embraced him in return.
Observing the man’s reflections, the lawyer responded with a knowing look, emphasizing that this situation was akin to a game. While he was recognized primarily as a divorce attorney, he also possessed the insights of a Christian counselor. He had listened carefully to the man’s narrative and discerned that there was no substantial reason for a divorce in his marriage. The lawyer had aimed to guide him toward this realization, understanding that had he broached the topic directly during their previous conversation, the man might not have been receptive. He drew a parallel to a biblical account, illustrating that just as Jesus instructed the servants to fill the empty waterpots before performing the miracle of turning water into wine, the man too needed to take responsibility for nurturing his relationship.
The lawyer elaborated on the symbolism of the waterpots, which represented the everyday realities of marriage. Many individuals mistakenly believe that the essence of marriage lies solely in romantic gestures and fleeting emotions, such as the excitement of new love. However, he emphasized that the foundation of a successful marriage is built on practical, day-to-day efforts. He referenced the humble act of Jesus washing the feet of his disciples, highlighting the importance of service and care in relationships. In the context of their time, where travel often involved dusty roads and simple footwear, it was customary for homes to have someone designated to wash the feet of guests. This necessity underscored the importance of maintaining cleanliness and comfort, much like the need for consistent effort and attention in a marriage to foster a loving and supportive environment.
The process of nurturing our relationships often involves addressing aspects that may appear mundane or unromantic, yet these elements are crucial in paving the way for more profound and intoxicating experiences within our homes. It is essential to recognize that this journey is one we must embark on together, as partners. If we find that our metaphorical waterpots—representing various facets of our relationship—are running low, it is imperative that we take action to replenish them. The pressing question we must consider is which of these waterpots may be empty, whether it pertains to respect, responsibility, or communication.
For instance, consider the waterpot of communication. It is not uncommon for individuals to engage in extensive conversations with friends and acquaintances while neglecting meaningful dialogue with their spouses. A clear indicator of an empty waterpot in this area is when one finds themselves sharing jokes and humorous content with a wide circle of friends, yet their spouse is excluded from this exchange. If one is forwarding amusing memes or jokes to numerous contacts but fails to include their partner, it signifies a disconnect in shared humor and interests, suggesting that the couple may be drifting apart.
This growing distance can manifest in various ways, such as when one partner feels that the other is too serious or too spiritual to appreciate certain jokes. Such sentiments can lead to a situation where individuals seek laughter and amusement outside their marriage, further deepening the divide. It is crucial to recognize that a healthy relationship thrives on shared experiences and mutual understanding, including the ability to appreciate lighthearted moments together. If one partner feels compelled to exclude the other from their humor, it may indicate a need for introspection and a concerted effort to bridge the gap, ensuring that both partners can enjoy the same jokes and laughter that once brought them closer.
There are moments when she finds herself laughing in solitude, prompting me to suggest that we should share in the joy of laughter together. I often inquire about the material she is engaging with, urging her to share it with me. In response, she typically expresses skepticism about my ability to grasp the content, stating that I would not understand it. However, I insist on the importance of mutual understanding and enjoyment, leading her to eventually invite me to join her in reading. This exchange highlights the frequent occurrence of memes and cultural references on social media that can be perplexing. For instance, it was my wife who first elucidated the concept of the “Yoruba demon” to me, a term that has gained traction on platforms like Instagram.
My engagement with social media is often sporadic; there are times when I may be inactive for days at a stretch. I have a support system in place, as someone assists me in navigating the online landscape. Recently, I dedicated three to four days to a retreat, during which I committed to fasting from social media entirely. This decision was a conscious effort to disconnect, and I successfully adhered to it. Upon returning from such experiences, I rely on my partner to help me catch up on the latest happenings, allowing us to share laughter and insights together. While I am keenly interested in current events, particularly political developments, my wife does not share the same enthusiasm for news.
In our relationship, we have established a balance where I inform her about significant political contests and developments, such as the current candidates in Lagos State or the actions of prominent figures like Buhari and Osinbajo. This dynamic fosters our growth as a couple, as we build our lives, friendship, and communication around our individual interests. Understanding each other’s preferences is crucial; my inclination towards news contrasts with her disinterest, yet we find common ground in sharing what we each enjoy. The notion of pursuing our individual interests without consideration for one another could lead to a hollow existence, devoid of meaningful connection. As we reaffirm our commitment to each other, we recognize that our shared experiences and understanding are vital to nurturing our relationship.
This morning, it is essential to grasp a significant truth: God relies on each of us to create a home that reflects His glory.
The aspiration is to cultivate an environment where it can be said that you have preserved the finest qualities for the latter part of your journey. In a world governed by the principle of entropy, where all things tend to deteriorate from good to bad and from bad to worse, it is crucial to recognize the potential for growth and improvement in our lives and relationships. For instance, if one were to place a piece of paper on a table, seal the room, and return after a decade, that paper would likely show signs of decay, perhaps turning brown or disintegrating into dust. This illustrates the natural tendency of all things to break down over time when left unattended.
However, God’s intention for our marriages is not one of decline but rather of flourishing and enhancement as time progresses. When we entrust our relationships to God, we can expect them to improve rather than deteriorate. The presence of Jesus in our homes, along with the involvement of His disciples, is vital not only during the wedding ceremony but throughout the entirety of our marriage. By seeking guidance and support from one another, we can witness the manifestation of God’s hand in our lives. It is through mutual encouragement and adherence to divine principles that we can foster an atmosphere of growth and love within our households.
God’s directives are often straightforward and practical, aligning with the natural laws that govern our existence. Therefore, it is imperative to follow these simple instructions within our homes. This journey requires faith and a commitment to daily actions, much like the biblical story where water was carried with purpose. By consistently engaging in these practices, we can cultivate a nurturing environment that not only honors God but also allows our relationships to thrive. Embracing this approach will lead to a home that is a testament to God’s glory, reflecting the beauty of a life dedicated to His service and love.
The inquiry regarding the moment when water transformed into wine in John Chapter 2 often arises among individuals seeking to understand the nature of this miracle. The essence of the transformation lies in the series of obedient actions taken by those involved. Each step, from the initial filling of the water pots to the final serving of the wine to the master of the feast, played a crucial role in the manifestation of this miraculous event. It is essential to recognize that mere availability of water is insufficient; there must also be a willingness to act in faith, as every action taken contributed to the eventual outcome.
The act of filling the water pots, while seemingly mundane, was a vital precursor to the miracle. It is important to note that one could fill the pots yet choose not to serve the water, which would ultimately hinder the miracle from occurring. This highlights the necessity of both preparation and action in the process of faith. The individual tasked with delivering the wine may have experienced doubts and fears, questioning their own judgment as they approached the chairman of the occasion. Such internal conflicts are common when one steps out in faith, often leading to feelings of vulnerability and apprehension about potential embarrassment.
In moments of obedience, particularly when faced with societal pressures to act otherwise, one may feel the weight of skepticism from both within and outside. The voice of doubt may suggest that one is foolish for adhering to a path of kindness and humility, especially when it seems counterintuitive. However, the commitment to obey divine guidance remains paramount. By choosing to act in faith, even in the face of adversity or ridicule, one can facilitate the restoration of joy and abundance in their life and relationships. The determination to pursue what is right, despite the challenges, is a testament to the power of faith in bringing about miraculous change.
In conclusion, I would like to address all the singles present today and kindly request that you bring forth the waterpots designated for singles, particularly the one I utilized last night. I express my gratitude for your cooperation, and may you be blessed. It is important to note that the waterpot representing mental investment in oneself is distinct, albeit slightly different from others. It is crucial to understand that no one desires to enter into a marriage with someone who lacks mental acuity. Emotional stability is a fundamental requirement; individuals must prioritize their emotional well-being before embarking on a marital journey.
Entering into a marriage while neglecting one’s emotional state can lead to significant challenges. For instance, if one is already embroiled in conflicts over trivial matters, such as wedding color schemes, it indicates a lack of emotional readiness. Imagine a scenario where disagreements escalate to the point of physical altercations over something as superficial as color choices for the wedding. Such behavior underscores the necessity of addressing one’s emotional health prior to making long-term commitments. It is essential to recognize that while color schemes may hold importance, they should not overshadow the deeper emotional connections that are vital for a successful marriage.
Therefore, it is imperative to take the time to invest in personal emotional balance and health. Filling the waterpot of emotional well-being is as crucial as nurturing the waterpot of physical health and self-esteem. Individuals must engage in self-reflection and personal development to cultivate a strong sense of self-worth and emotional stability. By doing so, they will be better equipped to enter into a partnership that is not only harmonious but also resilient in the face of challenges. Prioritizing these aspects will ultimately lead to a more fulfilling and balanced relationship, paving the way for a successful marriage.
I have come to understand that making light-hearted jokes about oneself while speaking publicly is a clear indication of strong self-esteem. This practice has become a regular part of my life, as I actively work on enhancing my self-worth. I find that I can freely express humor about my own experiences without it affecting my sense of identity. My self-image is firmly anchored in my faith; I am a child of God, and I possess a deep understanding of who I am.
Reflecting on my past, I recall a moment during my courtship when my wife made a playful remark about me, referring to me in a way that I found offensive at the time. I was taken aback and reacted strongly, questioning her choice of words. However, upon returning home, I felt a gentle prompting from the Holy Spirit, reminding me that I had not fully healed from my past experiences. As the fifth of six children, I often found myself overshadowed by my older siblings, and as one of twenty-six cousins, I frequently played the role of the underdog, which led to a history of being teased and labeled in unflattering ways.
My childhood was marked by a struggle with my physical stature, as I was often reminded by my mother that if I did not grow taller, I would be excluded from family outings. This pressure to conform to physical expectations weighed heavily on me, and I was subjected to various nicknames that reflected my size. However, through the guidance of the Holy Spirit, I was able to confront and overcome these insecurities. By the time my wife and I were preparing for marriage, my self-esteem had significantly improved, rooted in the teachings of the Bible and my identity in Christ. It is essential for both married and single individuals to actively contribute to their personal growth and to support one another in this journey, much like ensuring that the water pots are filled to the brim.